Why learning to be with things as they are can lead to the biggest changes. Image by Steve Buissinne from Pixabay One of the hardest ideas to understand when learning about mindfulness is the concept of non-doing. The reason being that most people come to a mindfulness class to change something about themselves, or their life. They can't sleep, or their mind is racing or they struggle to relax. Ironically, the agenda is often the biggest obstacle they will face as they learn

Do you know your shame story and when and where it shows up? I have been teaching a six week course helping individuals to be more trauma informed. One of the lessons is on shame and understanding how shame influences your behaviour and thinking. As part of the lesson I help students recognise their shame stories. For most of my young adult life I knew what shame felt like. I knew the feeling of heat rising in my body and the desire to hide and never be seen again. I remember

It's easy to judge people's behaviour when you can't see what is going on the inside. I would have never admitted to my anxiety when I was young and I think most of the time I hid it well, sadly, often with over-confidence and arrogance. Now that I am older, I see how much I could have repaired if I had the tools and the ability to be vulnerable and admit when I was wrong. The Debs. Those of you reading who are Irish, will know that attending your debutante ball, or Debs, as