Do you know your shame story and when and where it shows up? I have been teaching a six week course helping individuals to be more trauma informed. One of the lessons is on shame and understanding how shame influences your behaviour and thinking. As part of the lesson I help students recognise their shame stories. For most of my young adult life I knew what shame felt like. I knew the feeling of heat rising in my body and the desire to hide and never be seen again. I remember

It's easy to judge people's behaviour when you can't see what is going on the inside. I would have never admitted to my anxiety when I was young and I think most of the time I hid it well, sadly, often with over-confidence and arrogance. Now that I am older, I see how much I could have repaired if I had the tools and the ability to be vulnerable and admit when I was wrong. The Debs. Those of you reading who are Irish, will know that attending your debutante ball, or Debs, as

When you can't stop unwanted emotions from taking over. Image by PublicDomainPictures  from Pixabay The first client who sat in front of me and said they were completely stuck and couldn't do the things they were normally able to do was quite a few years ago now. Since then there have been several others. They often describe themselves as burnt out or like they have nothing left to give. The situation is often similar. They have had a bereavement where they had sole responsib