Why staying curious helps you drop the judgment and focus on understanding. Image by Pavel  from Pixabay As a child I was always super inquisitive. I can remember my mother sending me into the sitting room to look things up in the encyclopaedias to satisfy my endless questions. I was called the walking dictionary in school, by friends, not because I knew all the words but because I often knew random things that other people didn't. When Google became widely available it becam

Why learning to be with things as they are can lead to the biggest changes. Image by Steve Buissinne  from Pixabay One of the hardest ideas to understand when learning about mindfulness is the concept of non-doing. The reason being that most people come to a mindfulness class to change something about themselves, or their life. They can't sleep, or their mind is racing or they struggle to relax. Ironically, the agenda is often the biggest obstacle they will face as they learn

Do you know your shame story and when and where it shows up? I have been teaching a six week course helping individuals to be more trauma informed. One of the lessons is on shame and understanding how shame influences your behaviour and thinking. As part of the lesson I help students recognise their shame stories. For most of my young adult life I knew what shame felt like. I knew the feeling of heat rising in my body and the desire to hide and never be seen again. I remember