How you offer support can either make someone feel secure or can trigger their attachment wounds. Photo by cottonbro studio: https://www.pexels.com/photo/two-person-holding-hands-7047471/ When the help is not helpful I am starting this blog with a story. When I originally planned it this wasn't part of what I was going to write but sometimes the universe gives you a gift of an example that explains exactly what you are talking about. To add a little background first. I have b

Why staying curious helps you drop the judgment and focus on understanding. Image by Pavel from Pixabay As a child I was always super inquisitive. I can remember my mother sending me into the sitting room to look things up in the encyclopaedias to satisfy my endless questions. I was called the walking dictionary in school, by friends, not because I knew all the words but because I often knew random things that other people didn't. When Google became widely available it becam

Why learning to be with things as they are can lead to the biggest changes. Image by Steve Buissinne from Pixabay One of the hardest ideas to understand when learning about mindfulness is the concept of non-doing. The reason being that most people come to a mindfulness class to change something about themselves, or their life. They can't sleep, or their mind is racing or they struggle to relax. Ironically, the agenda is often the biggest obstacle they will face as they learn